Look, Adulting.

Adulting
Boy, howdy we love to use that word “adulting”. It is a “media now” term that is benchmarks of maturity.   It is important to label a thing you are doing “adulting”.

To adult, or “adulting” as I understand it, is a way to put someone’s physical being into a simple verb to place importance on rudimentary things to ensure a level of comfort in a given (western) society, To me, that’s how “adulting” is presented.  “Adulting” actually is nothing more than one’s relationship to personal responsibility.  To me, that is what I think “adulting” is. There is no reason to keep telling people that you are taking personal responsibility for yourself. Like, why? We can tell you are taking personal responsibility for yourself when we see your check-ins, and when you can post about doing things you clearly need a job, and disposable income to do. It is all about posting on social media, otherwise, how else would anyone know what anyone is doing, seriously. We are emerging onto a shift in culture and creating a different kind of culture war, but no one seems to notice, or no one seems to care, I don’ t know.

There are different way to express you’re taking personal responsibility for yourself.  Always exclaiming that your tired, paying for something, or not doing something that you use to do when you were in your early ‘whatever’ is not, a sign that you’re “adulating” it’s a simple sign that your focus and attention is on something else. Becoming more “boring” or proclaiming it (by saying you are “adulting”, dammit, we know, we see you) does not count.  Everyone is fixated on changing when it can be described, but

Would I trust my own interpretation of “adulting”? No. Because what is to be “an adult” these days? One part Peter Pan experiences and one part nostalgic prisoner, mixed in with bland life compromise. Depending on what city you live in, being an “adult” is different, fast city, slow city, big lights, farm fields, markers of maturity influenced by your surroundings, whether good or bad, you can always tell what are you were when something started.  Where does the marker begin and when does it end. Moreover, to adult, when you say adulating, is there a time limit or a beginning?

One can never stop growing or “adulting” when they have changed a line of thinking, or can admit that they were wrong, without explanation (like giving out excuses, saying, “I’m sorry, but…).  That is more “adulting” than anything else is.  It is harder for people to change themselves than it is to influence change in others. It is harder to go ahead and makes the steps to change a thought, attitude, or belief than it is to tell people. “Hey, I’m “adulting” because I bought a coffee table”. It is more difficult to say “I use to think that”, “I’m sorry”, or “I was wrong”.  It is harder to admit that you were wrong, than it is to highlight what you spent your money on.

We rather see what we can compare to others, than to acknowledge what we value about ourselves. Things are so outward and backwards that introspection is not happening if there are no pictures and hashtags.

Adulting, indeed.

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